Social children custody movement

The children need both parents and equal involvement from divorced and separated parents reported by The Swiss News Wide World. A social movement took place in the Capital of Bern, this demonstration is asking for help from the courts to allow both parents to play an important part in their children’s future. This demonstration is raising awareness for parents’ involvement in children’s lives. The social movement is asking for laws to be more flexible and allow parents to be involved with their children regardless of their marital status. Thirteen Original groups are rallying for laws to be more flexible with the hopes that divorced and separated parents can share custody of their own children. In my personal opinion this social movements and awareness are very important steps towards the improvement of the current conditions of child relationships and divorced parents.

Sharing children custody

In most divorce cases the children are awarded to the mother and the father has to make arrangements to see his children. The father has to request through the courts to see his kids when the mother refuses to allow him to see the children. Often divorced parents have their very own and personal reasons as to why the other parent must not have any contact with his or her own kids. According to the Ronal Mills the best solution is for parents to share 50% child custody. When parents start sharing the custody 50% it is possible that it can minimize the stress on the whole family.

Emotional support

The Deseret News has reported available classes for children who are the product of divorce. Children who are going through divorce need some emotional support to allow the transition of divorce and separation more smoothly. The court of Salt Lake City Utah is offering classes for children ranging between the ages of 9 and 12. The classes offered by the City of Salt Lake are very important however these classes are only held two days a week. This type of community service is not enough to have two days a week. These classes should be held more often to alleviate some of the divorce trauma of children who are the product of their parents own troubled marriage.

Deadly children experience

The Associate Press reported on May 18, 2008 the death of the two children fatally shot by their father during a disputed child custody issue. The mother of the children blames herself for running out of the house to get help. This is just another example of how traumatic some divorces can be to some families. In this particular case the adults involved had developed great deals of anger for one another. The parents of the two children were sharing custody and it is obvious there was no harmony in this type of arrangement. It is possible the children witnessed and were exposed to some horrible and difficult situations during the legal custody.

Divorce and common believes

TheAge.com has reported the opposite of what most scientists have been reporting for years. The common belief is that every divorce would cause trauma to the victims of divorce especially the children. When a child misbehaves in school or a classroom the first question to arise is the, dreaded divorce issue. At the same time some children will perform badly in school and behave bad regardless of his or her parents marital status. This article disputes the long belief of children’s poor behavior due to the trauma of divorce. The lesson to be learn is not to generalize every single divorce case perhaps divorce in some rare cases is beneficial to the children and adults.

Behavior blaming

Society blames children’s poor behavior on divorce and separation of parents. Some children who are in a very negative household environments would be better off to be removed from their poor and negative surroundings. I personally feel that divorce and separation could be helpful and beneficial to some children in some rare cases. I am the product of parents who stayed together until my brothers and sisters were adults. Eventually my parents divorced. The separation of my parents arrived too many years too late, because we were forced to witness the physical altercations, fights, screams and shouts between mom and dad. It seems to me that I could have more respect for my parents if I had never witnessed their poor decision making and open exposures.

Children reactions to divorce

Children are being traumatized by effects of divorce and separation. As the Tehrar Times reported on May 14, 2008 children suffered the consequences of the adults actions. In this particular case the Tehrar Times reports a female child developing signs of discomfort, aggressiveness at school and with schoolmates. Typically teachers noticed a change in grades, demeanor and school interest, in children. The children have tendencies to react poor to negative environments at home. The negative home environment is often clear with children’s behavior in school and at home. As shown in this Tehran Times article the student has developed behavior and peer issues.